Many of us want to make changes, because we feel we’re not happy. So, many of us are searching for a new job, a new title, a new relationship, a new car, a new diet, a new house, a new cause to support, or a new business to start. Although, it seems a lot of times we get those things, and we are still not satisfied.
Maybe what’s lacking is not what we perceive it to be on the outside if when we do get the things we say we want, the feelings of happiness doesn’t last. In a short time we are finding things wrong with the job, trying to get the bigger title, seeking attention from members of the opposite sex instead of our partner, spending more money to change the new house, or taking up the next popular cause.
On and on it goes, but maybe what’s lacking is not in the external thing, situation, or person. Maybe it’s something that we perceive to be lacking within ourselves. Until we look at ourselves and see what is wrong on an emotional level, nothing on the outside will ever fill that space.
I once heard a great expression, ”If you have a hole in your pocket and nickels keep falling out, putting more and more nickels in your pocket is not going to solve the problem.” You need to mend the hole in the pocket in order to stop losing the nickels!
Is there a hole in your ‘pocket?’ Do you need to look deep down and see what may need to be mended on the inside? Until then, nothing on the outside – no title, relationship, or shiny new object will bring the lasting feelings you long for.
It’s that simple, but it’s not that easy. It can be a difficult process requiring courage and a willingness to look at our emotional wounds and do the healing work. It’s a deep level of self-awareness, and it can be painful to bring to your own consciousness.
However, I don’t think there is a greater freedom and eventual peace than self-awareness. Once this happens, the external things in life you strive for will be enough, because the feelings you are wanting are really already there. Some people go their whole lives choosing not to do this; and that’s OK, as long they are not hurting other people by ignoring their own wounds.
Water your own grass by taking time to look within just long enough to make sure you are going forward as the BEST version of yourself.
Maureen Keyte is a Certified Personal Coach and Professional Writer with a passion for helping others through life transitions in order to become the best versions of themselves. Her writing has been published in several regional and national print and online publications. She is also a grant and marketing writer for non-profit agencies and businesses that focus on empowering women and young girls. Contact – Website – Facebook – LinkedIn – Pinterest – Twitter
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