Mar 012017


“Authenticity is not something we have or don’t have.  It’s a practice – a conscious choice of how we want to live.  Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day.  It’s about the choice to show up and be real, the choice to be honest, and the choice to let our true selves be seen.”  – Brene Brown

Authenticity is a gift we give ourselves and others.

It was not until I started to work on personal development that I realized how important it is to be authentic.  I identified parts of myself which had been hidden, suppressed, or never discovered.  Talents were revealed and skills enhanced through the gentle uncovering of my authenticity.

Being authentic is a feeling of freedom that is hard to put to words.  The relief of being able to have a voice, facing every day with empowerment, and expressing my truths as they are a part of my natural way of being, is liberating.

Throughout life, we grow up being told who to be, how to think, and that childlike wonder we so much want to recapture after having lost it, is rarely appreciated.  Often, we may hear the words “face reality.”

Fortunately, I learned something profound.

The world does not crumble, the fire breathing dragon does not blow fire, and the gremlin within does not have power when authenticity from the depths of our soul is brought to the surface!  Reality is what we make it, as there are infinite realities available to us every second of the day.

What does real authenticity look like?  Living in the art of creation through being uniquely you, is the best way to be authentic.

Driven to be the best version of yourself.

Pro-active listening with the intention to feel connected to the other person for optimal communication.

Ensuring all thoughts and actions are in alignment with what is important to you.

Knowing what makes your heart sing and stepping fully into engaging to make it your reality.

Focusing on possibilities, potentialities, and opportunities with a deep feeling of being on purpose.

Honoring your gifts and talents and making no excuses for standing out in a crowd.

Enabling others to be their authentic self, expressing in ways that fits who they are.

Understanding the value of the experience and the impact it has on your ability to be a shining light in the world.

Seeing beauty and perfection in everything.

Having compassion without expecting anything in return.

Supporting others in reaching their highest potential.

The more I settle into my authenticity, the more others around me want the same thing for themselves.  They are inspired to seek out their spark within and allow it break through to the surface.

Like ripples in the pond, being authentic creates happiness, joy, and a sense of gratitude for life reaching far and wide affecting those on your path.

Being in authenticity is easier than hiding or dodging what you know in your heart that you are.  Taking just one day to let go of all you think you are and respond to your experience with trust and confidence to expose the real you, will set you free.

3 Action Steps to Being Uniquely Authentic

1  Build Your Confidence in being You

It can be scary to take that first step towards being authentic.  Check your confidence level.  Do one thing different today that speaks to your authenticity.  This could be saying “no” to something/someone, making a choice where you may not have done so in the past, or saying what you really want to say without fear.

Identify any physical symptoms as you think about taking this action, what you feel during the event, and what you feel afterward.  You may find yourself a bit more confident as the results will be more positive than you may have believed they could be!

Now, you can practice this more and see your confidence improve step by step as you express your authenticity each day.

2  Choose Something Important to Achieve

Small achievements can go a long way.  Find something you feel is achievable and focus on successfully accomplishing this goal.  It can be as simple as cleaning out the office, enrolling in the class you always wanted to take, crossing something off your bucket list, or reaching out to someone you have hesitated to contact.

When you give yourself permission to do something for yourself, you feel empowered and capable of being you with confidence.

3  Be Loving to Yourself

Authenticity is a lifelong process of peeling away layers that lead to the sweetness at the core and the diamond in the rough.  We all have a spark within that can be dimmed over time, encrusting the love we have for ourselves.  You have the chance, at any point in life, to reach the core and chisel away to the center, discovering YOU.

Along the way, love life as it is and envision you in the purest form of authenticity.  In this state, there is only happiness, joy, peace, and serenity.  Love is the greatest feeling of all, enabling you to embrace the fullness of your sense of self.  Be authentic, with no excuses and watch how others will be attracted to you.  Your experiences will be amazing!

Smile every day, until your cheeks hurt.

Pamper yourself by taking time out for a book, a walk, a drive; anything that tells you, “This is for me.”

Fix yourself a special meal, or better yet, have someone else fix it for you.

Buy yourself flowers if you are a female; buy that new tool if you are a male… because you want to, and you deserve it.

Meditate with the goal to reduce stressful feelings and bring in thoughts that feel good and allow you to smile with joy.

Authenticity is about living life to the fullest with exuberance, vitality, and embracing all life offers.  Personal freedom is the golden ticket to giving meaning to life and your journey.

Eileen Bild has been coaching and guiding people for over 20 years.  She has obtained a Masters in Transpersonal Theories and Practices, is a Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, Writer and Producer/Videographer/Photographer.  ContactWebsiteFacebook 1Facebook 2LinkedInYoutube

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  3 Responses to “3 Action Steps to being Uniquely Authentic”

  1. As a psychologist working with those who have the fear of public speaking, this guidance that Eileen provides is inspirational. People think they have a fear of speaking, but it’s really a fear of being who they really are…their authentic self.

  2. Lisa,
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. We have had many great conversations! I agree with you, our emotional guidance system and natural instincts are best when nurtured. When we are authentic, both of these are in check and we respond to life from a higher awareness perspective. This enables us to enjoy life seeing it from a more positive viewpoint and possibilities. Good to “see” you.

  3. I’ve had the pleasure of working with Eileen and have shared with her many conversations. Originality and authenticity are integral to personal growth. Staying in alignment with your emotional guidance system an instinct that needs to be nurtured.