Have you ever talked with someone or read their Facebook statuses and they are constantly reminding the world they are a divorcee, victim of violence, insecure, or their world is crashing every day. There are some emotional outfits that people constantly wear every day reminding them of their struggles as victims. They seem to have a self-fulfilling prophecy of never being the one walking in victory.
There comes a time when we must sit down and take an emotional inventory of everything occupying our mental state. For this writer, I first inventory those things not of God in my mind.
There are some emotional outfits that have become outdated in our lives, because we have turned those challenges into accomplishments, yet we seem to refuse to wear the outfit that compliments the step forward. For a woman who has survived emotional and physical abuse, the scars may have healed and you are no longer in that situation, but do you continue routines that remind you of that past situation over and over again?
Do you constantly remind yourself of the time you lost, and you waste your time on those memories? Then it may be time to stop that routine. It is time to clothe yourself in the present. Find new opportunities to create amazing memories, and use your time to live as a woman walking in victory.
This does not take away from the event happening, but it doesn’t continue to feed it causing it to live in your present. For Christians the Scriptures state, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” 2 Corinthians 5:17. This reminds us we can’t wear both old and new.
Consider the situation you fought so hard to overcome and the medal of accomplishment you deserve to wear in your smile and the rhythm of your walk. Woman you are amazing! Wear that amazing from your head to your toe. Bag up depression, anxiety, nightmares, jealousy, and anger – set it on fire if you must.
Wait! Wait! Wait! I know you are thinking, “But Yolanda it’s not that easy.” Well I say, “Honey, we are creatures who can birth something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon, so we can do anything! Find your focus point and PUSH!” There is also a quote I like:
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. – Author Unknown
We must live in a time in which we take responsibility for our actions and not allow negativity take root and flourish in our lives. Of course there are situations which may occur out of our control, but we can stand in victory for surviving it. I refuse to wear the outfit of ‘my ex-husband did me wrong’ on my first date with Mr. Amazing.
Every day we awaken is another opportunity to wear love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. These are the ‘Fruits of the Spirit.’ Maybe we are unable to wear all the outfits in one day, but we can concentrate on one a day.
Begin now by writing down one of these different outfits you want to wear each day on your calendar. Yes, I’m serious. Each day’s ‘Fruits of the Spirit’ outfit will allow you to make a conscious decision to focus on your emotional attire for the day.
Maybe your walk and talk already reflect your accomplishments in a style and grace that cause the birds to sing and the trees to bow. But, think about that friend of yours who may need to hear it. Grab her by the hand, and help her do some spring cleaning and new attitude shopping.
Believe it or not, we are all in this together as women. If you see toilet paper on my shoe or a habit of destruction I am not aware, I need you to check me. In addition, be able to check yourself. If you are truly done with the ‘Season of Destruction and Sadness’ in your life, then drop the outfits that went with this. They are now out of season and out of style. They don’t look or feel good on you. I’m your friend, and I love you, so I’m going to tell you truthfully. “Woman, you have a Black Card with endless credit and without an expiration date, so let’s clean out the emotional closet and ‘Go Shopping’ for a whole new wardrobe!
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