Apr 012017


“People may call what happens at midlife ‘a crisis,’ but it’s not.  It’s an unraveling – a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you’re “supposed” to live. The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are.” – Brene Brown

We all go through life’s journey, getting just a little bit older every day. Whether you are before mid-life, in mid-life, or past mid-life; there is something special about this juncture.

I think about standing at a crossroad, with nothing but flat land as far as the eye can see. There are four long stretches of roads leading in every direction, and I am contemplating which direction to go.

There is a silence, yet I feel an inner knowing tugging at me.

I turn to face one direction, and I test how it feels.  Not quite sure it is the ‘right’ one, so I slowly walk towards the road to the right.  I plant my feet in front of this path, and again I test the way this road feels.

I think it feels slightly better.  I log this in my mind and move to the right again. For some reason, this third road seems a little ‘darker’ than the others.  I decide to cross this path off the list of directions to take myself, trusting my intuition.

One more path to try, as I make my way to the fourth and final road.  Ahhh, finally, this one feels just right.  The air around it feels clear and crisp.  I sense clarity in my mind, and in my heart; there is a bit of joy along with some excitement of possibility.

Mid-life can be a time of a new life, when we can look back on where we have been, taking stock of our life’s lessons and what we have learned.  We consider how we have grown, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

If you envision yourself at the crossroads of mid-life, ask yourself:

Am I where I want to be?

Do I know where I want to go?

What do I still want to accomplish in life?

Do I feel on purpose?

Am I in my passion?

For me, as I have traveled through time and I get older each year, a strange experience occurs more often now that I am at the cross roads of mid-life.   Out of the blue, there is a shift of energy within me.  My inner mind quickly takes me into the far future, to the time of my last breath.

A slight feeling of urgency regarding what I am doing with my time left overcomes me, nudging me to be more focused and on purpose.  As I feel myself moving backwards into the present moment, my conscious mind is formulating and envisioning from my place in the now into the future.

Every time this phenomenon happens, I become curious as to why.  What is the message for me within the pull of the future as I stand in the present?  I find it fascinating we have the capability to direct ourselves in such powerful ways.

I recognize through the continued repeated occurrence of this forward traverse into the dimension of between here and there, my awareness of who I am, why I am here, and what my life’s purpose is becomes strengthened.

It is as if a part of me is saying, “Hurry, you only have ‘this much time left,’ so get a move on it.  What are you doing?”

From my own experience detailed above, I wish to share with you what I would like to describe as “The 3 Stages of Awareness Through Mid-Life.”

Stage 1

The simplicity of youth begins to fade and the complexity of adulthood sets in.  You are more aware of the imperfections of life and trying to find where you fit in all of it.  Awareness of your flaws, your faults, your strengths, and what makes you tick gets wrapped up in what the external world wants you to be.

As you begin to inch closer to mid-life, you are aware of whether your accomplishments fulfill your desires and goals you set out to achieve.  You either are happy with the current results, or you may be feeling disappointed with them.

Either way, the clock of life is ticking, and time is still moving forward. Stage 1 has been set, and your awareness is at the level from which your childhood and young adulthood was formed.

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love . It will not lead you astray. “ – Rumi

Stage 2

You accept things as they are and the fact that you are getting older.  At this stage, there are two ways you can view life. You can feel like it sucks or there is still time left to live a great life.

Mid-life can be a struggle, or it can be an opportunity for a new life, one that is exciting and extraordinary.  You can have the belief age is just a number, and you are never too old to start something new or take a risk to engage in your passion.

What have you got to lose?  At this stage, there is still time to achieve goals and dreams.  Nurture your inner spark of light, and watch a whole new world open for you.  Awareness that life is meant to be lived joyfully and with passion becomes a priority.

“Joy in looking and comprehending is nature’s most beautiful gift.” – Albert Einstein

Stage 3

This is a time of deep inner reflection.  There is a pull to let go of the past and settle into the present. You may see life as a gift.

All you have become and wish to be is just a mirror of your perceptions of what your life represents to you.

You are in a more peaceful place, in an ebb and flow, like the tides of the ocean washing ashore.  Imagine the sunrise at the beach or a waterfall at dawn with a rainbow in its mist.

Mid-life is not so much something to shrink away from; instead, it is something to embrace.  As the seeds of the fall were planted, be ready to blossom in the spring.  We too have been ‘growing’ through the passage of time.  And, now, we can burst forth with renewed vigor, freshness, and attitude.

“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” –  Buddha

In sharing with you what I believe can be wonderful, mid-life is a blessing you and I can become friends with. Take some time to stand within your crossroads and see which path feels best.

Once you choose, walk the stepping stones laid out before you, allow yourself to recognize mid-life as a part of your journey, and then embrace the process of aging as something meaningful and positive.

Eileen Bild has been coaching and guiding people for over 20 years.  She has obtained a Masters in Transpersonal Theories and Practices, is a Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, Writer and Producer/Videographer/Photographer.  ContactWebsiteFacebook 1Facebook 2LinkedInYoutube

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