Apr 012017


A few days back, a quote I had heard years and years ago kept repeating itself all day in my head.  The older I get, the more this seems to be a regular experience for me.  The quote as I remember it says, “The road is smooth, why do you throw stones on it?”

It so reminds me of the many days, in the past, when I have created drama where there was none; worried about a situation, when there was none; feared problems when there weren’t any; blamed someone else for a problem, and it was me that created the problem.

Have you ever done any of these things?  Do you have other examples you can add to the list?  Most of us can add a bunch of stuff and then some.

I have always felt this was a great metaphor to describe the different ways we as human beings sabotage ourselves.  That sabotage can show up in many ways.  The paragraph above shares a few of mine.

I have found as I grow older, I have not been throwing as many stones; and most days of my life, I am not throwing any stones at all.  As a matter of fact, I have learned how to rub, use, and appreciate the stones as a calming factor.  You remember that old saying don’t you?  “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Well, I am creating tranquility rubbers out of the stones I get to hold.  Sometimes, I have been known to play with them, stacking them in specific shapes i.e. hearts, stars, crosses and etc.

When the road is smooth, why do we throw stones on it?

Why can’t we enjoy ‘moments’ of peace and joy without encouraging ulcers to grow?  Why is it so hard to be grateful for the smoothness of many of the roads in our lives?   I think many of us have traveled on mostly smoother roads than rough roads.

Think about it, everything that we worried about and thought would happen… didn’t.  I count this manner of thinking as throwing stones on a smooth road.

For those of us who feel we have had more rough roads than smooth to travel, we have the actual experience that helps us ‘bounce back.’  And, with this experience, we can better help ourselves and others learn how to ‘hang in there.’

When we can spend more time ‘noticing’ the smooth roads in our lives, expressing gratitude, and leaving the stones alone, except for playing with them, life will begin shifting in such a wonderful direction. This is just one way to bring more peace, joy, love, and hope into our lives.

Until next time, I am sending lots of peace, joy, love, and hope to you and yours.  I remind you again that you matter, more than you ever will know.

P.S.  When I couldn’t remember where I had heard the quote, I typed it in to Google and this website came up.  I think many of you will find it to be a joy to read the information you will find there.

Shirley T. Burke founded the Esteem Institute as a platform to offer transformational programs, classes and workshops to individuals and organizations who welcome personal and professional growth. In 2011, she was one of ten people to be named as an inaugural winner of the Boomer Magazine “It List.” She is a member of the National Speaker’s Association and Past President of National Speaker’s Association-VA Chapter, ABWA -The River City Express Network and the Network of Enterprising Women.  Contact – Website – Facebook – Twitter – LinkedIn

Photo Credit  – Mariamichelle

  3 Responses to “When the Road is Smooth, Why do We Throw Stones on it? Do You?”

  1. Kathleen, I so appreciate you reading and commenting on my article. I can relate to many of your comments. I encourage you to continue loving yourself and continue “building that new road to a stable and prosperous future.” You Matter!! <3

  2. Thanks so much Shirley – and yes…I guess I am very guilty of throwing boulders (much larger issues than mere stones) on my success and causing serious repercussions. Many appear as mere accidents which take me from work however recently I’ve been viewing it more as personal sabotage rather than ‘accidents’ given they seem to occur strategically at times when I’m getting caught up and success is ‘right there’. I guess I could change my thinking to think of the boulders as a solid foundation for a stable road rather than the negative obstacle that needs to be climbed over. I am very grateful in the here and now for coming through the latest ‘road building’ excursion and I await my positive outcome. I’m doing my best to maintain as positive as I can.
    As with many I grew up in a very dysfunctional family unit which then followed itself into the family business and I am now building a new road to a stable and prosperous future.

  3. Wonderful perspective, Shirley. A friend and I just talked about a similar topic yesterday. Being in the moment not looking ahead, not supposing anything, not looking back but just being right there and appreciating all that it is. Thank you for sharing with this audience.