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Maureen Keyte - Life

In order to allow a new and better phase of your life to happen, you need to let go of the past.

As difficult as it may seem, it’s important to become aware of things that no longer serve you. And, realize it’s time to let them go if you really want to become the best version of yourself.

WVM November 2014 Maureen LIFE ImageSome things that hold you back are on the physical plane such as an unhealthy relationship, a dead end job, or even a bad habit. Another big block to moving forward could be a negative emotion such as anger you’re holding in your mind and heart towards another person or yourself.

In this case, forgiveness is the key and can set you free to write a new story for your life.

Experiencing pain or betrayal at the hands of someone you know well and care for is a devastating situation. Often, in addition to judging the actions of the other person, you blame yourself for trusting, opening your heart, or not knowing better. It’s a natural reaction and a way to try to understand what happened in the hopes it will prevent it from happening again.

It is a good idea to look at yourself and see what lessons you need to learn from your painful experience. However, holding on to those judgments or beating yourself up for your part in the situation keeps you imprisoned long after the incident is over, leading to your own unhealthy consequences – emotionally or even physically. Holding on to anger may result in lingering negative thinking that just prolongs your misery.

It is often easier said than done, but forgiveness is the best way to heal and move forward to a happier life. Writing your feelings down or talking them out with a good friend or a therapist can help give you the tools to start you on the path of forgiving someone or even forgiving yourself. Sometimes the first step of forgiving is just being willing to let the anger go is the hardest.

Don’t get me wrong, forgiving is not the same as excusing, and it is never for the other person. It might feel like we are “letting them off the hook,” but by choosing to forgive, you are letting go of any toxic resentment that’s harming you, not condoning inappropriate actions of the other person.

In order to fully be in peace, you must choose to let go of resentment towards that person. That does not mean you choose to enable or participate in any of their unhealthy behaviors ever again.

In one of my favorite books, A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson writes, “Forgiveness is ‘selective remembering’ a conscious decision to focus on love and let the rest go.”

Remember – forgiveness is a gift you give yourself; not necessarily the other person. It doesn’t mean you condone the other person’s actions; rather you make a choice not to suffer from them anymore.

As we move into the spring season of rebirth and renewal, think about where you want to be and who you want to be. Let go of resentments and anger or anything in your life that is binding you to energy that holds you back.

Be grateful for the lessons you learned from the situation, even though it may have been painful. And most importantly, be grateful for the freedom releasing the past brings in order to enjoy your life to the fullest.

Today is a great day to start to forgive, let go, and be grateful for the life that’s ahead of you.

Maureen Keyte is a Certified Personal Coach and Professional Writer with a passion for helping others through life transitions in order to become the best versions of themselves. Her writing has been published in several regional and national print and online publications. She is also a grant and marketing writer for non-profit agencies and businesses that focus on empowering women and young girls. ContactWebsiteFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitter

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